When things get on nerves, this is place to vent out. I have striven and come a long a of being non-impulsive.Perhaps there are certain things which my mind surpasses of all the efforts that I put in. People who know me well know that those things literally choke me up. I understand there are perspectives and beliefs that are not going to change for another few centuries if not more. You people might have already started getting gist of it.
What defines prestige of people here is how grand/gold-full/blusterous your daughters wedding is. If you cannot make it to either of above, you have almost no right to live. I know it is most trivial thing being talked about, and internet might already be having millions of article on the same issue.I have refrained myself from penning it down for real long for that fact that I am sure it is may leave bad taste about my persona for some, as some of you know me personally. But as I just cannot get over for this time around and nothing else is working out, I have to do this irrespective of the reciprocation that it will bring to me. But then after all it is my perspective and I am not holding it for or against anybody.
If one cannot keep
funding gifting their children for life time some or other way , it is lost battle of good parenting – one has failed miserably. Yes, this is the extremity I get to hear day in and out. Now that I am already a mother of 1 year old, it strikes me even more than before. If X amount of money is all I have to do something for my daughter i.e. keep the money safe and get her married grandly and keep funding gifting her for whatever span of life we are together or EDUCATE her with her choices,given the background that I am born and brought up in to , to educate her is the only way forward in my view. I don’t see the other options at all.And that is what has been done for both us in-spite of the fact that we both are girls – okay quiet ordinary thing,I know. We were happily let pursue streams of our choices irrespective of the money matter, and to me this is a thing that stands out. Thought and cost of getting us married did not inter-vain ruin our education choices. Not any single thing of it has come easy and every penny was worth a count. And now that we are officially educated and employed with decent jobs , why on the earth someone would feel bad if we flaunt it as an achievement? or should I ignore this as an example of the famous saying of sore grapes? or it is an attempt to make me look down even more for real unworthy reason as many around know I am the best example of what a low self esteem can be and this tricks can work wonders easily on me?
If I/we working women have respect for those who are home makers, I wonder what makes society look down upon us? May be we don’t have cleanest houses, we my not be master chefs, we may have a little spoiled kids.My question does staying at home guarantee that all the above mentioned and similar things ? If you boast that it takes almost nothing to go out,find and sustain a job, I openly challenge to those coward minds to literally go out and just try getting it. If being humble is considered as your availability at disposal, perhaps it is time to stop being so then.
I know I shouldn’t give s**t about this entire thinking process which is sign of literacy and not education. Every one is free to make choices about what makes to the top of their own priority list but definitely not free to rule out someone else’s choices. It is individuals decisions to choose and I believe we should respect each others or atleast avoid bad mouthing if cannot respect.
I seek strength and patience from almighty so that no effort can deter my efforts of seeing good over evil,to be able to pass on the legacy of good thoughts and not any of material thing to my next generation. Amen…!
इतनी शक्ति हमें देना दाता
मनका विश्वास कमजोर हो ना…
P.S. – I have not written this post to point out someone specific and have no intentions to hurt anyone’s sentiments.